The Limiting Belief That Keeps You Fat, Broke & Lonely
We’ve all been a victim to limiting beliefs. But there’s one in particular that’s SO sneaky and SO widely accepted, you may not realize how much it’s affecting you.
It’s the “ I can’t” belief.
I can’t make more money.
I can’t lose weight.
I can’t find love.
The list goes on…
The truth is: Your brain is lazy.
When you say “I can’t”, you’re telling your brain that the outcome is impossible. So why would it bother looking for alternatives?
You can thank your RAS (reticular activating system) for this. Your RAS is the “SPAM filter” for your brain - keeping only the most relevant info and discarding the rest. Otherwise, you’d be overloaded with stimuli.
It’s also is also responsible for looking for evidence to reinforce your current thoughts & beliefs.
If your beliefs tend to skew negatively - the RAS will look for evidence to support it.
In this case, believing “you can’t” do something, is going to be reflected back to you.
Once you accept negative beliefs as “truth”, you’ll never act in opposition to them. You can only act in accordance with what you believe to be true about yourself.
How can we start to identify and counteract these limiting beliefs?
How do we create a new template to work from?
These beliefs (I can’t make money, lose weight, or find love) all stem from a lack of trust in yourself.
And there’s likely a core memory tied to each one that caused you to accept this new belief as “truth”.
Maybe you lost a bunch of money at a young age or got laid off from a lucrative job and never bounced back.
Maybe you went through a devastating personal loss or medical issue that caused you to gain weight that just never came off.
Maybe you went through a betrayal or gut wrenching breakup and you vowed to never get hurt again.
So, the key is to build TRUST with yourself again.
But how? Through consistency and sustainable habits.
For every failure, there’s a success story. Let’s break it down…
Limiting Belief #1: I can’t make more money.
Money is inherently tied to our self-esteem and self-worth especially in western society. We believe our value lies in how much we make and how much we can buy.
It’s not necessarily the money we need to focus on, it’s on building your self- worth.
What I teach with my Micro-Action Method™ is to pick the smallest, most achievable thing you can repeat for 21 days straight without breaking. Because that’s how long it takes to form a new habit.
If you’re trying to build up your self esteem, pick something that you’re REALLY good at or REALLY passionate about. And pick an action that reinforces that feeling.
If you’re really passionate about writing and want to eventually write a book someday - commit to writing for 10 min every day for 21 days.
If you’re really passionate about health and fitness but your goals seem too far away, commit to walking 10 minutes a day or doing 10 minutes of calisthenics at home.
If you’re really passionate about video games, find an online course or class on how to design/build a video game and work on it for 10 minutes a day.
The most financially successful people followed their passion which ALIGNED with their strengths.
By taking doing this daily exercise, you’ll be building self confidence again AND working on something you love which might just spawn your next business idea (which could make you more money).
Limiting Belief #2: I can’t lose weight.
How many times throughout your life have you told yourself “I’m just big boned”, “It’s my genetics”, “I don’t have time or the energy.”
Those are not FACTS, those are excuses.
There’s no such thing as “big boned.”
There’s no such things as “genetically overweight.”
There’s no such thing as “not enough time” - we all have the same 24 hours in a day. And if 10 minutes is all you can give - it’s better than nothing!
Learn how to reframe “I can’t” into “How can I”?
How can I learn to eat better?
How can I learn to care for my body?
How can I find exercise I enjoy?
When you ask your brain a question instead of making a limiting/absolute statement - your RAS will start looking for evidence to answer it.
It all boils down to the Fixed Vs Growth Mindset.
If you believe you can’t change, you won’t.
If you start LOOKING for ways to change, you might be surprised by what you find.
Limiting Belief #3: I can’t find love.
You don’t “find love”. You BECOME it.
When you’re “looking” for love, it comes from a place of desperation and lack. If you were truly content with your life you wouldn’t be bemoaning your lack of partner or love interest.
You’d be doing the things that bring you JOY.
People are attracted to confident, happy people.
How much of your time are you spending doing the things that light you up?
Doing what you love as often as you can, is the key to fulfillment - with our WITHOUT a partner.
When I manifested my partner, I truly got to the point where I didn’t care whether or not I died alone.
When I went on our first date, I didn’t care whether or not he liked me. I knew what I brought to the table.
I put myself on the pedestal and said the right person will meet me at my level.
It took me a long time to get there but it is possible.
Limiting beliefs are sneaky but with the right guide, you can find your own path out of the darkness.
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